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Intro

Welcome.

Glad you're here. This is the kick-off — so before anything starts, here's who I am, why this exists, and what the next five weeks actually ask of you.

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The why
Two ideas held together, and the one correction everything else rests on.
02
Who I am
Twenty years of this, and how the book, the quiz, the challenge and the practice fit together.
03
The challenge
Three tools, five weeks, and the shape of every single week.
04
Questions
Bring them as we go, or hold them to the end. Either is fine.
How Not To Use AI · The 30-Day Challenge

AI Is a Medium.
Not a Maker.

Five weeks of understanding the medium and understanding yourself — because those two things are inseparable.

Two things, held together
Marshall McLuhan

“All media work us over completely. They leave no part of us untouched, unaffected, unaltered… The medium is the massage.”

Not the message. The massage — the working-over. A medium doesn't wait to be picked up. It is always on, and it is always doing something to you.

Tibi tire la da ile aye · Yoruba

“The world was created with both good and bad, dancing in relationship. There is no light without shadow, no creation without destruction.”

Light and dark, joy and pain, are natural parts of human existence. Not a battle to be won. A relationship to be understood.

Taken together

There is no inevitability
in this race.

If we feel this is bad, then somebody has to decide to be the good that balances it. That is available to us. It is not available to us unknowingly.

Which means the first move isn't a prompt or a tool. It's stripping off the narrative we were handed — that AI is a tool.

The correction everything else rests onIt isn't a tool. It's a medium. And a medium is always on.
Hi, I'm Abi

Twenty years at the intersection of tech, culture and AI.

  • Started in tech — Apple, Microsoft.
  • Then culture — FremantleMedia, BBH, and Zag, their internal VC.
  • Then Africa. The burgeoning tech industry, where everything was offline and there was no data. You had to understand human behaviour from the ground level. That is where I actually learned markets.
  • Back to the UK — Gumtree, Uber, Meta. Big marketplaces, big platforms. Twenty years leading insights, cultural intelligence and data strategy.
  • The same thing, everywhere. An industrial way of looking at people that never gets at the truth. Research captures what people say. It misses what they feel, avoid, or quietly adapt around.
  • 2022 — it came apart. The Meta chapter ended, the marriage ended, my body refused to keep performing. I stopped being legible to the life I had built.
  • Two curricula, in parallel. One soul: archetypes, ancestry, decolonial theory, plant medicine, healing. One silicon: transformer papers, embeddings, latent space, attention. I thought I was doing two things. I now think they were one.
  • When generative AI arrived I didn't see a productivity tool. I saw a listening partner — something that could surface collective patterns humans struggle to see at scale.
  • So I left, mentored founders, built my own practice with challenger brands, and wrote the book I needed and couldn't find.
My north starStop trying to use AI better. Become the kind of human AI reveals better signals to.
Four doors into the same argument

How the pieces fit.

See yourself

The Quiz

The mirror at the doorway. Before you can enter the practice you have to become visible to yourself. 129 statements, sixteen positions, and no place to hide.

The map

The Book

How Not To Use AI: 50 Contrarian Principles for the Imagination Age. The philosophical foundation — the text I assembled for myself and couldn't buy anywhere.

Live it

The Challenge

The book made liveable over thirty days, with other people. A philosophy without a daily practice is just an argument.

Practise it

The Billion Person Focus Group®

The professional craft. Twenty years of extractive research, inverted: cultivation instead of extraction, listening as method.

Not a product ladder. An initiation sequence — my own descent, rebuilt so somebody else can walk it without losing what I lost to get here.

Thank you

9,863 of you.
Since December.

I started writing this at the end of last year genuinely not knowing whether anyone else felt what I was feeling. That question is now answered — across 121 countries and all fifty US states.

Who you seem to be
  • Educators, writers, researchers, founders and career-changers — far more than tech workers.
  • Mostly the US and the UK, then Canada, Australia and India.
  • Skewing female, and mostly midlife and beyond.
  • You found this through LinkedIn, through Substack itself, and through each other. No algorithm did this.
  • Reading this next to Understanding AI and One Useful Thing — but also Letters from an American. AI curiosity sitting beside civic attention.
What you asked for
  • To learn something — and to meet perspectives you won't get elsewhere. Those two came top, together.
  • Inspiration, and ideas you can actually make something with.
  • To back independent work that isn't answering to anyone.
  • A third space in this conversation. Neither techno-optimism nor doom. Signal, in the noise.
  • Not news updates, trend-chasing, or career tips. Those ranked last, by a distance.
And then the same question, every time

The posts you carried furthest were about care, mothering, and reclaiming intelligence. Not one of them was about a tool. And the message that comes back most often is some version of you put words to something I'd been feeling and couldn't name.

Then, almost always, a second one: okay — so what do I actually do with it?

This is the answer to that questionThirty days where the words become a practice. Not more reading about the medium — thirty days spent inside it, with other people, ending in something you wrote yourself.
Section two

The
#HowNotToUseAI
Challenge.

Thirty days. Five weeks. The book, made liveable — and done alongside other people.

What this actually is

The book is the argument.
The challenge is the practice.

A circuit through the book — embodied, immersive, and done alongside other people, so you see it for yourself rather than taking my word for it.

Three outcomes
01
Listen through the medium
How to use it in the field, listen through it, transmit through it.
02
Build the structure that protects the work
From the empire's gaze, and from its power.
03
Choose how you move forward
Exit, stay, or build something new. Refusal counts — from sovereignty, not fear.
The thing we refuse

You were sold two doors.

Adopt everything

dissolve into it, or be automated out

Get left behind

refuse, and quietly disappear

There are more than two. And you get to choose where you land.

Both of those were owned by someone else. By Week 5 you'll be standing in front of nine, and choosing deliberately.

Section three

The tools, and how
the challenge is built.

Three things in your hands, and one seven-day rhythm they all run on.

Three tools

Why each one exists.

01
Read along

The AI Sovereignty Matrix

Your book companion. All fifty chapters placed on a map, so you can see how they build — and read alongside the challenge if you want to.

02
Know yourself

The 16 AI Sovereignty Archetypes™

Your companion through the thirty days. Where you're standing, what this medium does to someone built like you, and a coach that customises the work to it.

03
Live it

The Weekly Drop

How you embody it rather than read it. Seven days a week to immerse, work with peers, rest, and imagine your way to your own position.

Tool one

The AI
Sovereignty Matrix.

Fifty chapters, placed. Two axes: inner against outer work, root against field work. Where a law sits tells you what kind of work it asks of you.

Tap any law for its synopsis · hover the axis labels for what they mean

Tool two

The 16 AI Sovereignty
Archetypes.

Soul before silicon. Self-knowledge beats skill acquisition — because a medium reflects whatever you bring to it, and the questions you can ask are bounded by the parts of yourself you've actually met.

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The eight dimensions
02
The archetype pairs
03
Pace & stance — where people land
04
The transformation arc
05
The Challenge Coach
01 · The eight dimensions

The medium presses on everyone somewhere different.

Tap any dimension

02 · The archetype pairs

Every terrain holds two answers to the same wound.

DimensionThe human question ArmourEdge

Tap any name · neither pole is the better person

03 · Pace & stance

Where people actually land.

Tap a circle for its distinctive statements · hover the axis labels

04 · The transformation arc

Armour was intelligent when you built it.

Armour

The protective answer

It made sense at the time, and it is costing you something now. Not a character flaw, and not the lesser half of anything.

The arc

Not bad to good

The move is from defending to authoring. What decides which pole you land on isn't your terrain — it's how much of your stance is actually yours.

Edge

The authored answer

Arriving brings its own friction rather than an ending. Every Edge position has a next edge. There is no finish line here.

The current running through all eightHow fully do you author your own relationship to this medium? Two people on identical terrain get different results depending entirely on that.
05 · The Challenge Coach

The Sovereignty Archetypes Challenge Coach.

A custom GPT and a Gemini Gem, trained on the book, the philosophy, the whole curriculum and all seventeen archetypes.

Customise

Any task, tuned to you

Hand it any day's task and it sharpens it for your archetype's specific wound and tell.

Explain

Ask it anything

Stuck on a task, a law, a term? It knows the whole body of work and can put it in your terms.

Your choice

Either platform, or neither

Use whichever you already have. Every task also works in its shared form, on its own.

Tool three

The Weekly Drop.

Seven days, seven senses, in the order perception actually moves through a person. The same body, five times over.

Thirty-five days across the five weeks — thirty tasks, because Day 6 is rest.

Anatomy of a WeekReceive · evaluate · act · relate · integrate
receiveevaluateactrelateintegrate
Every day, every week: hand any task to the Challenge Coach and it will give you a custom prompt, task or angle that fits your archetype and your actual situation.
Section four

The weekly
curriculum.

Five weeks. Some land all at once on Monday; others drip, because the task needs yesterday to have happened first. Each week opens on its own stations — packaged clusters of chapters that share a theme.

Week 5 · The false binary, revisited

Two doors were
never the map.
There are nine.

Three stances, three doors each. No door is more advanced than another — and exit for good is a real one.

Cross this first · Law 34

Choose Your Own Destiny

Neither doom nor rapture is written. Nothing past this line is choosable until you stop waiting for the future to be done to you. Cross the threshold — then choose your door.

What you leave with

Your own
Code of Use.

Six sections, first person, no hedging. Two lanes: what stays in human hands, and what the medium may carry. Nobody hands you the right answer — on Day 30 you write your own.

My Code of UseFirst person · no hedging · revisited, not fixed
The human lane — never leaves my hands
  • Deciding what is worth making at all.
  • The first draft of anything that carries my name.
  • The final judgement on whether a thing is true.
  • Grief, apology, and anything owed to a person.
  • The parts of my thinking I protect even when it's slower.
The medium's lane — what it may carry
  • Holding a pattern across more than I can hold at once.
  • Arguing back when what I need is a wall, not agreement.
  • Finding the thing I know exists but cannot name.
  • The genuinely mechanical — sorting, transcribing, formatting.
  • Research I would otherwise skip for lack of hours.
How I see the medium

A medium, not a maker. Ancestral, not artificial. It reflects what I bring, so what I bring is the work.

My tell

When I notice I've stopped being able to say which thought was mine, I stop. That is the line, not a feeling.

What this is in service of

Named specifically — a person, a practice, a body of work. Not "balance". Not "more time".

An example, not a template — yours will look nothing like this

Why it has to be yours

Nobody else can write this for you.

Customised

Your archetype, your lanes

A Purist's lanes and a Hustler's lanes are not the same document. What you protect depends on where the medium presses on you — which is what the diagnostic was for.

In partnership

Build it with the Coach

Take your archetype and your five weeks of notes to the Challenge Coach and draft it together. Or with a person who knows you. Or both.

Not fixed

Revisited, not carved

The tools will change under you. A Code built on principles rather than platform rules is the only kind that survives the next model.

And one more thingWe close with a final live. We read our Codes of Use to each other — because a thing you say out loud to other people is harder to quietly abandon.

All options are valid.
You set the pace
and the stance.

It doesn't come from anyone else. It came from you.

Over to you

Questions.

Take the diagnostic — quiz.hownottouseai.com
Pick your rooms in the chat
Week 1 lands Monday morning